There are positive and negative things we can say to ourselves. We must keep in mind that it is always up to us to decide what to say to ourselves. If we tell ourselves that we’re not good enough or that we can’t do it, we care actually strengthening this negativity within us. We must avoid putting ourselves down this way. Instead, we must remind ourselves of how extraordinary we are and encourage ourselves by saying things like “Yes I can!” or “I’m great!” or “I can do anything!” If we are always telling ourselves that we’re no good, we greatly reduce our self-worth and happiness escapes us. However, when we make positive comments about ourselves we build our self-esteem, and become better prepared to face whatever challenges lie ahead to achieve happiness.
Here are some examples of positive things to practice saying to ourselves:
- I’m strong.
- I’m a genius
- I can do this.
- I like myself.
Similarly, what we say to others can have a huge impact in their lives, for better or worse. Remember that words are like seeds. Like a good seed that becomes a beautiful apple tree, positive words blossom into wonderful opportunities. Bad words grow into limits and defeat. Because our children and students look up to us and listen to us, one of the best things that we can do as parents, teachers or mentors is to give them positive comments. The power of what we say must not be underestimated. If we have nothing positive to say, it’s probably best to say nothing.
Some of our most important interactions with other people involve verbal communication…and it always begins with a greeting. By taking the time to great others, we recognize them and let them know that they are important to us. This makes the conversation that follows more meaningful. A good rule is to always greet our parents, spouses, siblings and children every time we leave or arrive at home.
With regard to different cultures and nationalities, we must understand that they do not exist to separate us nor compete with each other. They exist to complement and strengthen each other. The key to communicating with people from different cultures is to be open and believe that if there is a will there’s a way. People can overcome language and cultural barriers and communicate well when they are willing to make a strong effort.
The sound of our voice is another major factor in our communication. Sounds that are not even words can be very powerful when communicating with those who speak a different language. Remember, when communicating in a different culture, we must always be respectful of it’s customs. Every day it becomes more important for us to be ready to communicate with anyone in the world because technology constantly brings us closer together.
Leaders know what to say no matter where they are in the world. There are some simple yet important phrases that can be found in most languages and that can help us to create a special link with these people whose culture and language we barely know. For example:
- Thank you
- Your welcome
Excerpts in this article were taken from the ATA Leadership Life Skill Books